An honest post from me. February and Valentine’s Day are often associated with couples, romantic relationships, flowers and lovvvve. But this month, instead of focusing on receiving love from others, let’s focus on loving ourselves first.
Easier said than done. I know. I’ve done a lot of reflecting recently, something that I’ve learnt to really value as I continue to want to grow and evolve as a person. For me, life is about learning, about discovering, about listening to ourselves and understanding who we are and being confident with that. I don’t want to feel stuck or stand still, I want to trust myself and leap into the exciting unknown, having faith that MY decisions and MY choices have led me there. After all, the only path to follow is your own. Yet it’s so easy to loose your sense of self ever so easily in a relationship, whether that’s with your best friend of significant other.
Which is where I felt I was at a few months ago, so I made it a priority to get to know ME. Starting a whole new journey of self-love; truly, completely and fully. Again, easier said than done. I feel like since being young we’re conditioned to think we need a partner to complete us. We jump from bad relationships to bad relationship because society tells us it’s not ok to be alone. But how can you love anyone else without loving yourself first? How can you love yourself without knowing yourself?
So here’s my advice. Start to know yourself. Give yourself that time to do that. Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity.
“The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.” Jane Travis
Happy Self Love Month!